I really value both space and connection in a relationship. Being together, but remaining distinct individuals. In this respect the idea of a tandem bike feels off-putting. I mean, your both pedaling, and both putting in the effort, but one of you has zero control of the direction you’re going in. Some tandem bikes even have a steering wheel on the back seat. That you can’t use for steering. Maybe I’m being

Both J. and the Dogster modeled for me for this one.  J.  — while finishing up another work project on his laptop, the Dogster — half asleep and indulging in a belly rub from the both of us. I was still thinking of intimacy, feeling safe and close to each other. Feeling that you can relax and let go, feeling aligned, like there’s a direction the two of you share. Knowing that

This is another piece I created for the gender stereotype project N. and I are working on. The man in the interview talks about a relationship he was really happy in. “We had warm conversations, we could talk about cooking, fashion, things one or both of us were interested in (science, art, music), or we’d sit sharing a pair of ear buds, listening to the same music, for hours. <…> We were